I have been working to allow myself to become a ‘recovering’ people pleaser. It takes a lot of self-reflection and looking within, but I am now becoming more aware and able to address many people pleasing issues when they arise. Feeling I had moved ahead, I was very surprised recently to notice a situation that […]
The Mood Around Me Read More »
Today is one of those “I need my tiara” days. What is an “I need a tiara” kind of day? It’s one of those days when I’m overwhelmed by the multitude of things I have to do. I feel I’m being attacked from so many different sides, I cannot focus. I cannot think straight. Eventually
You are so busy. You struggle to keep all the pieces of the jigsaw puzzle of your life together- home, church, family, kids after-school activities, work, and the list goes on. You must plan ahead and determine what pieces of the puzzle (a.k.a your life) will get a ‘yes’ response from you and which will
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I did it again. She called with a last minute cancellation asking me to please take over the project. Through gritted teeth with a forced smile I said it would be no problem. Afterward I slammed a few cabinet doors, spoke some words I wouldn’t want my daughter to hear, and then started to readjust
Living within Healthy Boundaries Read More »
‘Oh that my steps may be steady, keeping the course you have set’ – Psalm 119:5 msg I have tossed my daily TO DO list and now work on an I WILL list. Simply thinking about ‘what I should do’ verses ‘what I will do’ is a perspective shift that has helped me to move
A young man was called into the boss’s office. He working as an artist for a Missouri newspaper. He was informed that he was not creative enough and was no longer employed. If you’ve ever lost a job you cherished you understand what this young man thought and felt. In our
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Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not human masters…Col 3:23 After doing a short bible study and focusing on this verse I went to make my bed and clean the bedroom. Earlier in the week I had leaned down to pick up something and noticed the
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Forgiveness. The Bible tells me to forgive others. The Bible promises God has and will forgive me. Psychologists and medical doctors say unforgiveness causes many physical and emotional problems. I understand all this. I can accept the premise of all these. Over time I have learned to forgive others for the wrongs done against me.
Confessions of a Recovering People Pleaser–Stuck in the Muck Read More »
You probably don’t have to think extra hard to think of someone in your life that always knows what you should do. One person in particular has an overwhelming personality and insists you do what they say is right you. Because you don’t like conflict or perhaps the other’s fierce determination they know what is
Confessions of a Recovering People Pleaser–Making My Own Decision Read More »
Changing the way I respond to others means changing my view of things. Sometimes I find the world around me is filled with negativity. Some people seem to thrive on bringing everyone around them into their negative world. Once I get into that frame of mind, it is hard to break out. One thing I
Confessions of a Former People Pleaser – Ridiculous Read More »
I hate to admit it, but people pleasing is an addiction. The truth is, when people call me, depend on me, seek me out to do something my ego is fed and my image is enhanced. It provides a temporary high. And just like the temporary high from a batch of brownies or a chemical
Confessions of a Recovering People Pleaser–What If Read More »
I hear voices. Sometimes my mind is like the hard drive on my computer. It is filled with lots of information, much of it obsolete, some of it inaccurate like many posts on facebook, a bit of it incomplete; some are lies, some the truth. There are days it seems like I put the lies
Confessions of a Recovering People Pleaser – The Voices In My Head Read More »
The worst part about being a people pleaser – in my opinion – is the inner turmoil. The constant weight of knowing there is someone expecting more of me, I can never do enough, I didn’t do it exactly as they hoped, by doing what one person wanted another is upset with me, and on
Confessions of a Recovering People Pleaser – Inner Peace Read More »
Are you one of those persons who can receive a compliment from 9 people, but then 1 person says something negative and it ruins your day? I am. Or, at least I was. I am trying to become an “I was” in this instance, still working on it. Why do we do it? Why do
Confessions of a Recovering People Pleaser – They Don’t Like Me Read More »
My name is TerryAnn and I am a People Pleaser. If there was an anonymous group for this, I would be a charter member. I have lived my whole life trying to do what others wanted me to. I would then be in turmoil when the desires of 2 more differed or it wasn’t something
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