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Reduce Stress by Simplifying Your Life

Psychiatrist Neel Burton M.D. has many tips on how to alleviate and manage stress. Among them is a simplification. Burton feels making lifestyle changes such as simplifying our daily lives can be very beneficial. Decreasing our to-do list or choosing just one battle at a time are certainly good ways to de-stress and simplify our …

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How to Make Your To-Do List More Effective

You already know that to-do lists help you get focused and organized throughout the day. Getting your disorganized thoughts on paper frees your mind and helps you to focus. Organizing your thoughts and priorities helps to keep you motivated, relieving stress and anxiety. Here are a few tips to help you create an effective to-do …

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How to Say No to People You Can’t Say No To

You’re overworked, overbooked, and overtired. You’re so busy there’s not another thing you can say ‘yes’ to. The problem is, the world hasn’t gotten the memo that you’re unavailable, and suddenly you’ve got someone you really can’t say ‘no’ to asking if you can take on one more thing. Sound familiar?  What do you do? …

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How to Adopt the Yes Attitude Toward Yourself

Adopting The Yes Attitude Toward Your Own Self Image There are many ways to improve your attitude toward your own self-image. Often, we are our own worst critics, and the way we speak to ourselves is usually much worse than how we’d ever speak to another person. Why is it so hard for people to …

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Confessions of a Recovering People Pleaser–Stuck in the Muck

Forgiveness.  The Bible tells me to forgive others. The Bible promises God has and will forgive me.  Psychologists and medical doctors say unforgiveness causes many physical and emotional problems.  I understand all this. I can accept the premise of all these. Over time I have learned to forgive others for the wrongs done against me. …

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Confessions of a Recovering People Pleaser–Making My Own Decision

You probably don’t have to think extra hard to think of someone in your life that always knows what you should do.  One person in particular has an overwhelming personality and insists you do what they say is right you. Because you don’t like conflict or perhaps the other’s fierce determination they know what is …

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Confessions of a Recovering People Pleaser–What If

I hate to admit it, but people pleasing is an addiction. The truth is, when people call me, depend on me, seek me out to do something my ego is fed and my image is enhanced.  It provides a temporary high. And just like the temporary high from a batch of brownies or a chemical …

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Confessions of a Recovering People Pleaser – The Voices In My Head

I hear voices. Sometimes my mind is like the hard drive on my computer. It is filled with lots of information, much of it obsolete, some of it inaccurate like many posts on facebook, a bit of it incomplete; some are lies, some the truth.  There are days it seems like I put the lies …

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Confessions of a Recovering People Pleaser – They Don’t Like Me

Are you one of those persons who can receive a compliment from 9 people, but then 1 person says something negative and it ruins your day?  I am.  Or, at least I was.  I am trying to become an “I was” in this instance, still working on it. Why do we do it? Why do …

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