Families can be a wonderful blessing, or they can be a major pain during the holidays. Let’s be honest, they can be both at the same time. The stress of the Christmas season, combined with the fact that we see more of each other than during the rest of the year, can bring any tension and arguments to a boiling point. Here are 3 tips/suggestions to help you deal with family issues during this hectic time.
Be Patient And Kind
‘Tis the season to be patient and kind. Make this your motto and set your perspective to reflect it. You’ll find you are able to enjoy a much more peaceful and relaxed holiday season this year. Remind yourself of this when things get hectic and stressful around Christmas.
I find that the simpler I keep things around the holidays, the easier it is to stay patient and kind. When we have too much on our plate, we get stressed out and irritable. I don’t have to tell you that this leads to a short temper that may cause you to do something you regret later.
Going in with a perspective of “I am going be as pleasant as possible” sets you up for a calmer and more enjoyable time. With a perspective of peace, you will find your responses and interactions reflecting that peace as well.
Walk Away If You Need To
Sometimes the best thing you can do is walk away. If a situation is stressing you out, or spiraling out of control, get yourself out of there. Go take a breather and come back when you can get back to being patient and kind. Sometimes just going into a different room for a few minutes or taking a short walk outside will do the trick. My mother always says the room is big enough you can spend time talking to someone you enjoy talking to and stay away from the ones you don’t. It is also important to remember, you do not need to respond to every statement made. When Uncle BobJimJoe makes his loud boisterous political statement, it is okay to nod your head and move on to another conversation. At other times, you just need to leave before you get into an argument with a family member, and that’s ok. There are times when you’re better off getting out of there. If it’s the only thing that will make it possible for you or the people you care about to enjoy their Christmas, you do what you have to do.
Postpone Arguments When Possible
The holidays only come around once a year. Bite your tongue if you need to and avoid arguments and fights. You don’t have to give in or bend over backward for family members you don’t get along with. Think of it more as postponing the argument until after the holidays. Enjoy the time with your loved ones… even the ones who are a little more challenging to love than others.
One last thing to keep in mind when you’re struggling with squabbles and fights around the holidays. This is a special time of the year and something you can’t get back. Try to put bad feelings aside and celebrate this special time with your family and friends.